Mary J. Blige

thumb Mary Jane Blige (born January 11, 1971) is an American singer, songwriter, actress, and entrepreneur. Quotes It means a lot. One day I realized that I wasn't getting anywhere by blaming other people for my circumstances. I finally understood: Even if you feel someone has wronged you or owes you something, no one is going to give you anything for free. In the inner city, there's a mentality that the government owes you something. My breakthrough came when I stopped feeling sorry for myself and took responsibility for every part of my life. No more pity parties. I've gotta love me more than anybody else loves me Everyone around me was looking for a quick paycheck. They knew that as long as I stayed high and drunk, I'd keep handing out the Rolexes. Getting a check. But no one had taught me how to invest my money or that I should buy property. So the second I got some cash, I spent it on every pair of shoes I never had. The very people who are not in my life right now. They encouraged me to drink, to be promiscuous. I allowed them to rob me of my life. Oprah Talks to Mary J. Blige I see a lot, you know, my family members needing babysitters and them not having a choice, no freedom. So when you’re younger, those are the words you make, those are the choices you make. I don’t want any kids When you get older, you start to see how valuable their teenagers are to them [and] their kids are to them. … Sometimes I’m lonely, but I’m alone a lot. I’m in my home, but we have a good time. We have a good time. I make sure we have a good time We by ourselves, we watching movies, I be trying on clothes, I be watching movies. I accept it; it is what it is. I’m not trying to have company and friends; it is what it is. Mary J. Blige Opens Up About Choosing Not to Have Any Children: ‘I Saw a Lot of People Struggling’;By Michael Saponara on 8/20/2026 External links Category:Women singers from the United States Category:Living people Category:1971 births Category:Women born in the 1970s Category:Songwriters from the United States Category:Businesswomen from the United States Category:Actresses from New York City Category:Grammy Award winners Category:Soul singers Category:Primetime Emmy Award winners Category:African Americans Category:R&B singers