Tina Campbell

thumb Trecina Evette "Tina" Campbell (née, Atkins; born May 1, 1974) is an American singer–songwriter, actress, and author. She rose to fame in the 1990s as a member of Mary Mary, one of the highest-selling female gospel music acts. Quotes At first I was like, “this ain’t never going to work and I don’t want God to fix this.” I was like, dang, everybody? Have I just been blind and stupid the whole marriage? I damaged a lot of things. I attacked him physically with things. My intentions were to kill him. I was praying to God and listening to the demons at the same time. The pain of what was happening made me feel like I needed to get him back. I was conflicted for a year. But as I prayed, my bad days became less and my good days become more. Love is powerful. I’m not a silly woman. I’m not a woman lacking discernment. But I had to understand what his responsibility was and what my responsibility was. I would have been known this if I was paying more attention to my husband. I can be honest and say I loved my husband, but I ignored and emasculated him. A man doesn’t want to feel like he’s nothing to the woman that he thinks is everything. Ultimately, I decided to reconcile because I believed my husband was better than what he was doing. I believed he was screwed up in the head and had some things he needed to deal with. I believed he had to come clean so we could try to become friends—which we never were. We were passionate lovers but never friends; that’s the honest truth. We dated for four years and were together for 12 before this happened, but we weren’t friends. If Teddy walked into the room, I would cringe up like the Lord just walked in. We had crazy passionate sex out the gate, but we fought as hard as we loved. We made up and broke up. There were always massive arguments and passionate love. Between children and career, I lost sight of my husband being one of my greatest passions. I would get to him when I could. I wasn’t aware of how selfish I was with that. Now my husband had boatloads of issues; it’s not like cheating was the only thing, and I was this huge problem. But I had to see how I contributed. I was extremely controlling, selfish and capable—which can be intimidating. And I was ballsy about it. I pushed and got what I wanted and considered him after that. That did not make for a happy, healthy relationship. We maintained this passion, but there was the underlying sentiment of, “We aren’t friends and you aren’t treating me right.” I guess my outlet was my career and children. His was what y’all found out. I think one of the biggest factors in us becoming true friends was him giving me all the dirt. He had to confess who he was, but also what affected him and how he got to the point of hiding instead of dealing with life with me. He told me what drew him in the earlier and later stages. Why it went on so long. Why it spiraled. Why someone who worked for me. His fears. How he felt about things I said that I thought he didn’t care about. A lot of women don’t realize how much your man cares about what you say, what you think about what he does. Our words greatly affect them. In him pouring out the contents of his heart and sharing things you don’t want tell someone, I began to trust him. He had to be blatantly honest with me about everything. I said, “I want to forgive you, so you have to tell me every single thing that I’m forgiving.” So he did, but that made it harder because I had to process all of these details about my husband and other women. Tina Campbell Talks: When HIS Cheating Is OUR Fault;By #TEAMEBONY on MARCH 13, 2015 External links Category:Women singers from the United States Category:Living people Category:1974 births Category:Women born in the 1970s Category:Women songwriters Category:Gospel singers Category:African Americans